Dealing with Aggression (Part I)

This is a two-part essay. Help me and let your voices end the conclusion of this post by commenting questions, suggestions, and yes,  even violent reactions.  Like Fun and Fearless said from http://theseekergirl.blogspot.com/, "Comments of whatever kind are all welcome." Don't worry I will appropriately cite your sites on my next post.

Aggression is a fairly common challenge we all have to deal with. From a kid who gets bullied in grade school to an office-man who gets scolded by his boss, there will always be a space for aggression. Becoming successful during these days require a lot more than ambition, guts, perseverance, and wits. One must also be able to deal effectively with aggression towards him (and vice versa). 

Dealing with aggression is more than a flow or resist option; as a result from the years of evolution in reasoning, civilly managing aggression has become the most preferable way of settling misunderstandings. But even though most of us know how to act in certain situations, most of the time our emotions get the best of us. Meaning, we become too emotional -disabling us to solve disputes objectively.

There are plenty of triggers of aggressive behaviors (anger, frustration, shame) but however varied those triggers are, there is only a single underlying factor for aggressive behaviors, and that is a threat to survival. Survival is the fulfillment of a person's needs (physiological, safety, love and belongingness, esteem, and self-actualization). So whenever a person demonstrates aggression, it is almost always that the person feels threatened. 

Effectively dealing with aggression is easy to say and understand. The hard part is doing it. Especially if aggression has escalated to hostility in either or both parties. A person who is infuriated and on a 'cursing/swearing fit' will probably not listen to your explanations however valid they are. So in these cases what should one do?

15 An Open Letter To Mr/Ms Anonymous:

Caution: Due to the harsh language of this post, reader discretion is advised.

Dear Mr/Ms Anonymous,

Are you nuts (Nauulol ka na ba)? You know what? I have never EVER claimed to be perfect in any way. I don't have to name them because OBVIOUSLY (if you have a functional IQ) they are STEREOTYPES. Figuratively, they can be your mother, your father, whatever. What I'm trying to say is - if you were hurt in any way, that's NOT my problem! Just tell me if I need to "dumb down" my statements, in case you still have trouble understanding. I would be PRIVILEGED and HONORED to educate you. ^_^

And  by the way, just to remind you, I am not obligating anybody to visit my blog and that includes you, Mr/Ms Anoynymous, so if you find my post/s "nonsensical," then STOP VISITING MY BLOG!!! It's that simple. I hope you understood that well enough.

And on the behalf of the people who read and enjoy my blog and the other blogs which you classify to be "horse dung," isang malutong na: "PUTANG INA MO PO." yun lang. What might seem to be nonsensical to you might be sensible to others. I'm just disheartened that your faulty intelligence and unkempt attitude is affecting your perception. 

P.S. You still haven't introduced yourself. What's the matter? Are you SCARED? Why don't you reveal identity so that your (most likely) ugly name and fucking face can back-up what you are saying? Ang bakla mo naman.


With Love,
aris101

10 Honestly Speaking... (Part I)

To Rymon3, the cry baby: 

"My dear, you have been crying for two solid hours now. I found you pathetic, the first few minutes you cried. Now, it's somewhat getting annoying. So suck it up, OK?"

To lil'Butchoe, the employer:

"Sir, I don't just know why I can't bring myself to tell you that what I am saying to you right now is exactly the opposite of what I am."

To rybody'sGF, the insensitive soul mate:


"Nooo!!! Don't you get it? I want you to want to want to know what I want and I want you to think of what that could be."


To holYPampA, the spirit-wise:


"It doesn't mean that your loved one died, he/she automatically 'joins the creator' or 'rests peacefully in heaven.' Since you haven't got a slightest idea how bitchy he was when he was alive."


To kiLmeNou, the emo kid:


"I can't blame how sad you are if you wear make-up as thickly as McDonalds does."

8 Proverbs

...Because when they tell you a saying, it doesn't mean they always just wanted to sound witty.

1. "Hey, congratulate me; my brain is growing! I am one proverb smarter than I was a minute ago."

2. "You deserve boring stuff like this motherfucker."

3. "Maybe he/she doesn't have enough resources to stumble upon this marvelous quote..."

4. "I'm just testing if people will love all the things that I do, regardless how useless they are."

5. "This is a Good-to-know info for idiots like you."

6. "God wants me to spark an inspiration from within you."

7. "You might like it as well since everything that I like is so likable by everybody else."

8. "For the last time, thinking about what to say in a conversation with you is such a drag."